Today we went home a bit late. Hubby had to finished some of his task.
By the way, when we reached home, I saw my nephew's car park in front of the gate. I'm glad his coming after a few months did not see him. He very close to me. Being a first grandchild in the big family of us, he did play a good example and role to his parents, grandparents, uncles and aunties, siblings and cousins. His obey on every single rule from parents albeit it will hurt him a lot or need him to sacrifices on his part.
When his father falling ill due to stomach ulcer, he willingly halt his study to taking care of his siblings. When his mother falling ill and being hospitalize at HKL, he willingly travel by bus every weekend from KT to KL to visit his mother and to bring 1 or 2 of his small siblings to see his mother. Its true sacrifice that I can see from this young man.
Now he still study at UiTM Shah Alam, and having 1 semester to go. I'm so proud of him being thru this journey at this young age. Ok his 25 year old. Yes, just 5 year old younger from this makcik.
By the way, back to the story, he's in my house today. I can feel something not right in him. His face was not glowing as always. Talk very slow than usual. So after dinner, I just wait from him to throw out the burden. But still nothing.... I know this 'problem' will be heavier than usual. So I just start the conversation. Then he slowly open up the story. He had a relationship problem with his girlfriend. OK that's sound quite straight forward. Let me go in detail, his girl wants to left him for unknown reason. Its been a year already. Within almost a year they still text-ing each other but no meet up. The girl refused and given 1001 excused.
He honestly told me, he really love the girl and he did bring this girl to met with his parents and he himself did visit girl's parent to show his honesty towards the girl. He honestly telling me due to his love condition towards this girl and I think a bit of lust (and syaithon) he did kiss the girl and now he regret over his action. But at the same time swear with me that he did not did anything beyond than that. I trust him but at the same time I angry of his action but at the same time I understood on whatever he did. I really thankful that he regret on what he already did. Afterall we are all human.
I can feel its to heavy for him to carry this burden alone. But at the same time, I did not want this disturb his study which is just few months left.
So I told him, holding or draging this issue for almost 1 year is not good. I told him, you should let off this girl. The longer you holding it is the harder to both of you. I know its hard but you should stop this and start to that points you should start something new in your life. If you really love her just let her go. If she is so perfect for you and you can not having it, remember Allah have a better plan to all of us. The only thing you should pray for the best, and redha on whatever have decided by Him. I remind him, its not only about the girl that you love, all peoples around you... your parents, family and everybody loves you. Don't let them down. You just have few months to go.
He admit and planning on next step to clear off the issue.
Before he left, I walk with him to his car. After salam-ed with me, he hug me. I pat on his back and say "Its OK for you to cry. Let it go... just cry". And he did cried on my shoulder. It was my first time after like 15 years I saw this man cry. I'm so touched that he trust me sharing on his personal life. He trust me more than others. But I should not destroyed this trust by just leaving him alone during this period. I asked him to come back next week. I want an update from him. I want to indirectly (and transparently) involve between this couple. I would like to see him back together but I did not want to give a hope.
Afterall, I pray for the best for him. InsyaAllah.
By the way, when we reached home, I saw my nephew's car park in front of the gate. I'm glad his coming after a few months did not see him. He very close to me. Being a first grandchild in the big family of us, he did play a good example and role to his parents, grandparents, uncles and aunties, siblings and cousins. His obey on every single rule from parents albeit it will hurt him a lot or need him to sacrifices on his part.
When his father falling ill due to stomach ulcer, he willingly halt his study to taking care of his siblings. When his mother falling ill and being hospitalize at HKL, he willingly travel by bus every weekend from KT to KL to visit his mother and to bring 1 or 2 of his small siblings to see his mother. Its true sacrifice that I can see from this young man.
Now he still study at UiTM Shah Alam, and having 1 semester to go. I'm so proud of him being thru this journey at this young age. Ok his 25 year old. Yes, just 5 year old younger from this makcik.
By the way, back to the story, he's in my house today. I can feel something not right in him. His face was not glowing as always. Talk very slow than usual. So after dinner, I just wait from him to throw out the burden. But still nothing.... I know this 'problem' will be heavier than usual. So I just start the conversation. Then he slowly open up the story. He had a relationship problem with his girlfriend. OK that's sound quite straight forward. Let me go in detail, his girl wants to left him for unknown reason. Its been a year already. Within almost a year they still text-ing each other but no meet up. The girl refused and given 1001 excused.
He honestly told me, he really love the girl and he did bring this girl to met with his parents and he himself did visit girl's parent to show his honesty towards the girl. He honestly telling me due to his love condition towards this girl and I think a bit of lust (and syaithon) he did kiss the girl and now he regret over his action. But at the same time swear with me that he did not did anything beyond than that. I trust him but at the same time I angry of his action but at the same time I understood on whatever he did. I really thankful that he regret on what he already did. Afterall we are all human.
I can feel its to heavy for him to carry this burden alone. But at the same time, I did not want this disturb his study which is just few months left.
So I told him, holding or draging this issue for almost 1 year is not good. I told him, you should let off this girl. The longer you holding it is the harder to both of you. I know its hard but you should stop this and start to that points you should start something new in your life. If you really love her just let her go. If she is so perfect for you and you can not having it, remember Allah have a better plan to all of us. The only thing you should pray for the best, and redha on whatever have decided by Him. I remind him, its not only about the girl that you love, all peoples around you... your parents, family and everybody loves you. Don't let them down. You just have few months to go.
He admit and planning on next step to clear off the issue.
Before he left, I walk with him to his car. After salam-ed with me, he hug me. I pat on his back and say "Its OK for you to cry. Let it go... just cry". And he did cried on my shoulder. It was my first time after like 15 years I saw this man cry. I'm so touched that he trust me sharing on his personal life. He trust me more than others. But I should not destroyed this trust by just leaving him alone during this period. I asked him to come back next week. I want an update from him. I want to indirectly (and transparently) involve between this couple. I would like to see him back together but I did not want to give a hope.
Afterall, I pray for the best for him. InsyaAllah.
6 cheers!!:
well like they say, it takes a strong (real) man to cry. :)
i think the problem that he's facing is mostly because he's keeping it to himself and not share it with others. he should be feeling better now.
thanks mosh... i hope he did feeling better too. just pray for the best la..
ouchhh..at least he has a makcik who is caring enough.
i hope he will listen to you and hopefully he will feel better too :)
good job mama!
p/s: mama masih muda remaja rupanya :)
zan.. i really hope that... somehow... he madly inlove with this girl as he claim, this girl was with him during his hard time (read: father/mother sakit). Some more both parents have no object with the relationship only wait for my nephew to complete his degree and later find a suitable job before go to the next level. He wants to responsible on what ever he did. That was his plan but somehow, its not. I think tu yg buat dia kecewa sesangat tu...
hmmmmmmmmmmmm..... the story sounds the same as my now dear someone experienced b4.. it is very painful for him.. but what u were telling him is true.. "if she is so perfect for you and you can not having it, remember Allah have a better plan to all of us. ".. hopefully he'll stay strong. Insya Allah dia akan jumpa someone else better.. :)have faith on that!
azell: he is my nephew yg paling rapat dgn I.. mana tak nya.. pernah satu sekolah lagi.. I std 6 dia std 1.. I school prefect kena jaga kelas dia time cikgu meeting.. dia pulak ketua kelas paling la nakal.... but when something jadi camni... sedihnya hati mak sedara ni.. kesian semua la ada... I really hope he can be strong... and able to find someone better.... doakan je la...amin amin
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